Yesterday Carolyn and I marked the 25 year moment in our marriage
Even as I write this it is very hard for me to get a handle on this length of time
25 years
In a way it seems so long ago
In other ways, it's like yesterday as I see Carolyn walking down the aisle towards me
We invited a small group of friends over to not only celebrate, but also share some new promises we desired to give each other
As I thought and prayed about these promises to make to her-before God and our friends-I couldn't help but think about the role of trust in our 25 years together
Trust has been an important (if not the key) ingredient in our lives
A glimpse would include
Early on in our marriage I had a very difficult time saying I was sorry for anything. I remember the first time telling her how sorry I was for basically just being a jerk and having her forgive me and saying she loved and accepted me anyway
Her unconditional acceptance of me regardless of...whatever...set in motion a sense of trust that I could share whatever and it would be okay for us
I trust her now more than ever
She has told me I have her trust as well
When I honestly listen
By not trying to fix everything in our lives
By seeking her best-often at my own expense
By just holding her and saying nothing (sometimes for a long time!)
By apologizing even when I was partly right-taking the lead in starting the conversation
By doing dishes and folding laundry which speaks to her love language
By providing for her and the children financially
These experiences in life formed the new promises we made to each other for the rest of our marriage last night
It was a beautiful night with the love of my life
I trust her totally
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
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